I got a lot of advice and tips when my niece was accepted to college. None more sobering than that from a friend with two beautiful twin daughters enrolled at top universities in the northeast. She told me she was on a mission to warn parents and relatives of young women about the prevalence of sexual assault on campus.

With some emotion, she shared one daughter’s experience of routinely fighting off aggressive groping, even in group social situations. And how the other daughter was assaulted after a rowdy alcohol fueled party. My friend told me she wished her daughter “had thought twice before sipping from the guy’s drink,” but she said emphatically, any man forcing himself on a passed out young woman knows it is “not consensual.”

What happened to my friend’s twin daughters is happening on most every campus in the country. A White House report released this year revealed one in five female college students are sexual assault victims, but only one in eight report the assault. Young men are also victims.

Colleges are now under fire both for downplaying the prevalence of rape and assault, as well as mishandling and suppressing cases. But, on many campuses, including the University of California at Berkley, Columbia, Harvard, and Tufts, survivors are foregoing privacy to share their trauma.

Survivors like Lena Sclove, who recently stood outside Brown University’s main gate to speak about her rape. Scolve has been on medical leave since last year when the school’s Student Conduct Board found Daniel Kopin responsible for offenses against her, including violence and sexual misconduct. Kopin was suspended for two years but an administrator overruled that decision, and Kopin was slated to return to campus this fall. Scolve told the crowd of supporters she would feel threatened if he was allowed back on campus, despite a ‘no contact’ order and regular monitoring. Since then, Kopin’s attorney told the university he would not be returning; Brown’s president informed students of his decision last week in an email.

Frustrated by campus administrations’ insensitivity to victims’ trauma, student activists at about 50 schools have filed a lawsuit under Title IX. Title IX bans gender discrimination, including sexual compliance; colleges out of compliance face a loss of federal funds. Despite that threat, last week Tufts said it was “revoking” the agreement it made to fix violations alleged in a 2010 rape on campus. The campus spokesperson said “we believe we’re already in compliance and we’re going to keep moving in that direction.”

Back to my friend’s daughter. Her college is one of the campuses being sued. My friend’s not surprised telling me the college has yet to develop rigorous prevention and protection policies. Her daughter, a top student, was emotionally distraught and left the school.

All colleges must provide safe environments. Colleges and universities that continue to turn a blind eye about sexual assault are being exposed. Public shaming of institutions is little comfort for those trying to heal, but it’s a start.