There are myriad ways to celebrate the holidays, from full-on family affairs or offbeat ugly-sweater gatherings,  to not celebrating at all.

Robin Abrahams — who writes "Miss Conduct" for the Boston Globe — told Callie Crossley how to celebrate the holidays your way, how to avoid getting sucked into terrifying gatherings, and — if there's no way around it — how to survive terrible gifts and overbearing family with style and grace.